Tips For The First Date

Going out on a date for the first time can be almost like a job interview.  You don’t want to talk too much, but enough.  You want to be yourself but a little reserved.  With all the anxieties that come along with the first date it’s unbelievable that anyone makes it to a second date.

I have a list of do’s and don’ts when it comes to that dreaded first date.

• Do be yourself.  Show your sweet and funny personality.  Let all your qualities shine through.  Don’t be afraid to talk and hold a conversation but don’t give your life history of all your ex’s and bad relationships.  Keep the conversation fun.
  
  
• Always be a good listener.  What’s the use of going out if your going to hold the conversation alone?  Listen and get to know the other person.  You’ll get a good idea of who they are if you’re listening instead of talking.
  
  
• It’s just the first date, why not have fun!!!!!  Instead of trying to find everything out on the first date work towards a second by having fun and no trying to drill and interview.  Having fun and feeling more relaxed will encourage both sides to show the real person.
  
  
• Don’t pretend to be something that you are not!  It’s better to get things out in the open than to pretend.  Nobody likes surprises.  If you’re not fond of children and your date has a child be up front and let them be the judge.  If you’re a smoker and your date is a non-smoker see if this is something that can be compromised about if not than it’s better to find out sooner rather than later.
  
  
• If you’re out at a club know your limit on alcohol.  It’s not attractive seeing your date get smashed.  If this date is a real drag don’t try to drink to fix it, be up front and say that you really don’t think it’s going to work out and end it.
  
  
• Be up front when ending a date.  If you feel it was a real disaster and you for see know more dates in the future say it.  Don’t be a coward and say you had a nice time and that you will call.  If things did go well don’t act all desperate to set up a second date, plan to call in a few days.  Sometimes a second date might be needed if you’re really not sure because first impressions are not always the best factor to go by.  Unless he was a total boor give him/her another try or two before writing him/her off.