Are you the type of person that is often found to be in an embarrassing situation or maybe others just easily embarrass you. You can take control of the situation no matter how bad the embarrassment was and put the attention off you. The most embarrassing thing that can happen only leads to putting the attention on you.
To control the situation and to get over the problem you have to make as if the situation does not bother you, use humor to control the situation, and to put yourself back out of the spotlight so that the embarrassing situation does not seem so bad after all.
Controlling the Situation
If you have done something that is embarrassing, maybe you passed gas or you spilled a drink, or you said something terrible, just apologize and move on with what you were doing. Making a big deal of what every was embarrassing will only make the other people feel more embarrassed as you continue to apologize and make a big deal about the problem.
Embarrassing situations happen every day. Everyone has problems that are embarrassing or they have done something that is embarrassing at one time or another. The best possible way to get past it and to make the situation comfortable once again is to apologize once and then change the subject.
A major part of overcoming embarrassing situations is just making the moment seem smaller and less important than what you might feel that is was. So you spilled juice all over your papers that you were going to give a speech with, just get up there, make your speech shorter and make the problem ‘go away’. Embarrassing situations are only made worse when you prolong the moment or event.
Learn not to put yourself down and not to make yourself more noticeable than needed. When the embarrassing moment is over, do not start saying things like, I am so stupid, or I am so clumsy. If you start putting yourself down because of an embarrassing moment you are only prolonging how much everyone is thinking about the problem.
The embarrassing moment happened and it will be forgotten as the events of the day or night move on. If you continually are making remarks about yourself being stupid, slow, clumsy or what ever to get over the embarrassing moment, others might start believing in what you are saying with is something else that you don’t want to happen at all.
If you have had an embarrassing moment that you just want to forget, then forget it. Don’t rehash the topic by repeating or telling an embarrassing story about it to others who didn’t know about or see the embarrassing thing happen. Retelling the story again and again to others is only going to open up you emotions and feelings to the embarrassing situation. If you keep bringing the incident up, more and more people are going to know about the embarrassing situation that happened and they are going to tell others as well.
If you have experienced an embarrassing situation, and it involves just one other person learn to live with it. Make an agreement between the two of you that the two of you both realize that it was embarrassing and that it won’t happen again. Make it understood between the two of you that even though you have had an embarrassing moment that the two of you still respect each other and that you are going to remain friends.
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